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I don't know what to do :/
Topic Started: May 23 2011, 03:21 PM (336 Views)
Isabelle
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I feel like my friends and I are traveling in completely different directions. And in some ways I feel like they're holding me back. They've just grown up (if you can call it that) from these pretty funny and slightly wacky people to a bunch of alcoholics and now they're starting to go round almost every night to the house of a couple of old school friends who I really despise (ones a slut and the other says if I'm not pregnant then I'll have a party when people ask, neither are going anywhere they work in fast food chains and that's where they'll stay basically) and now they're just starting to smoke pot because of these two girls.

Now I'm fine with the occasional use of pot, it's not something that I think is absolutely terrible and people should be condemned for. Plenty fully functioning members of society will occasionally do it but these people aren't fully functioning members of society. They're what I like to call no-hopers (the two girls) and none of my friends have any sort of aspiration to do something bigger, or at least do something to make it reality.

My friend Adrian is the one I'm worried about the most, he doesn't even have a job! He's never had a job and while reckons he's been trying he just seems to have lost all motivation. I'm just worried that this is all going to turn into a regular thing, the alcohol and drugs at their house almost every night and he's never going to get a job, move out and actually do something with his life. The worst part is it was someone who was supposed to be out friend that peer pressured him into it. I'm seriously considering cutting ties with all of them because I just don't want to be held back by them anymore. I'm ready to move forward and get on with life and they clearly aren't but I do still worry about Adrian because he was never like the way he is now until our friends came into his life and now with the addition of this other pair of fuck wits I don't think he's going to do anything at all.

I really, really don't know what to do.
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ReineDeVampire
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I know exactly how you feel. My friends are pretty much the same. The only thing I can suggest is getting away from them...you don't have to spend all of your time with them but focus on doing what you need to do to get where you want. It'll suck not always having them to hang out with but if you feel they're holding you back, don't let them.
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Isabelle
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To be honest I don't really feel like I like them anymore. Since that night when they stayed over and got smashed I've felt really weird about them. And they just don't want to do the sort of things I want, I'd be happy with a group of friends sitting around my tiny table in my tiny kitchen in my tiny apartment eating pasta from the pot and drinking some old warming mead but they just aren't like that. They aren't interesting enough either to hold a decent, funny conversation. While it would seem that my choice is very easy I do however like Adrian, when it's just us two it's great, with out the influence of those others it's really great. Maybe I just start inviting him out but like you said distance myself from the other pair. And perhaps bring along the few other friends I have that are quite lovely people. I think I should also hang out with them more - obviously ;p
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lol most definitely! Hey, I like your idea of a good time! That's the kind of shit I like to do but it seems like either my friends don't get that or it just doesn't happen for whatever reason. Meh, whatever. People are tricky things sometimes. ...I'm sure I was going somewhere with that but I got sidetracked and have forgotten...maybe it'll make sense to you though lol >.<
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PoisonGirlX666
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Aww, I'm sorry Isabelle :/ I know the feeling. Every single one of my best friends has either drifted away or turned into major assholes and there are a bunch of others that are now barely functioning alcoholics and drug abusers. The best thing to do is cut yourself off from them.

If you can, I think you should try to help Adrian see that he needs to get his life back on track. Try to maybe help him look for jobs and motivate him so that he can provide for himself. And if he doesn't want to listen, than at least you know you did your best to help him. And as you said, surrounding him with your other friends would be a really good idea.

I really hope this works out for you!

And I like your idea of a good time too hahaha :)
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Isabelle
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Thanks guys :) Well one day we'll all get together and eat pasta from pots and drink Maxwell's Honey Mead :D

I think I can get Adrian a job, maybe. And I'm getting quite close to a friend of ours who we went to school with and she was closest with him before Annie came to our school and she said they were always outside and doing things, playing soccer, bike riding, riding the quads and the like and then he just went from so innocent to well, I don't even know!

But the thing that pisses me off the most right now is that Annie started everyone calling me a hipster! I didn't even know what that was and I still don't really but form what I can gather they're total twats who think they're better than everyone else and always wear what's in trend and another friend said to me "well yes because hipsters do what everyone else does" in reference to me, I don't know if it was a joke but I'm sick of it! It's so high school! Do they really think I have time for this shit?! I work and have to deal with family, it's like; "if I was a 'hipster' do you think I'd be hanging around with you losers".

Gah I just don't know, I've uncorked the bottle and now it's all flowing out. Truth be told, I do think I'm better than those ones that are doing this juvenile crap because at least I'm aiming high, trying to do something, go somewhere! They're content to stay in Caboolture and make a mockery of other people because they can't look in the mirror and realise how shit they're own life is becoming. Fuck 'em.
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Amon
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Damn straight! Screw 'em! You should move to Texas and hang out with my friends and me. We just sit around and smoke (well, Patrick and I do) and maybe drink (but only go as far a a slight buzz) and talk about love, life, philosophy, religion, squirrels, 300, music, and my ass. And sitting around with a pot of pasta and bullshitting is the best!
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ReineDeVampire
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Sounds awesome!

Okay...upon looking for a source to try to and help explain hipsters I found this site: http://www.latfh.com/
Pretty much the easiest way...
There are also a bunch of meme pics making fun of hipsters and comic strips...
Basically a hipster thinks they're better than the average person. They stereotypically wear what used to be known as "Nerd" and "Emo" glasses (dark rimmed) and vintage clothing. They like to be sarcastic about politics and refuse to like something if it's cool...but are cool by liking uncool things.

More links!
http://www.urbandictionary.com/define.php?term=hipster
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Hipster_%28contemporary_subculture%29
http://www.hipsterhandbook.com/

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While I can see how someone might think you are hipster due to some conversations we've had, I REALLY don't believe you're anywhere near the level of stuck up that a true hipster is! So yeah, I would take offense to being called hipster -.-'

But yeah I hope you can get your friend that job! And ugh! I hate fake friends...because I'm sorry, I don't know her or the kind of relationship you have, but only superficial friends start shit like that.
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Isabelle
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Thanks Amon :D

God those comics are funny! Love Cyanide and Happiness :D And the website. I still like alot of the clothes not going to deny it. But the attitude no way :D

I guess I could see how they would call me a hipster. From things I've said but the problem is I talk but I never actually say anything you know. Occasionally I do but I don't actually say what I'm really thinking beyond the superficial crap which is probably why they think I'm a hipster. The funniest thing is they seem to blindly follow this rockabilly shit, going to pin up hair and make up classes, wearing cardigans and dresses ALL the time and watching Roller Derby. They're just as bad as the shit they preach against.

And another thing from what I understand about hipsters is that they kind of anti-establishment without the suffering, haters of the mainstream and the like. I think my friends are holding the past against me. I used to hate anything that everyone else like and that wasn't some sort of I'm better than you thing either. I was brought up on The Ramones, Cure, Damned and Clash + more. I was taught to hate all that pop and rap music and it's only been in the last year or two that I've realised it's ok to like that kind of stuff but sometimes my upbringing gets the best of me and I attack people like Lady Gaga, Katy Perry and sometimes I forget Justin Bieber is just a 16 year old kid and may say something against him too. Although I genuinely hate that whore Ke$ha. Ever since I first saw her crapping on about wanting to live in her a tree house in the Amazon I've wanted to smack the bullshit out of her.

But you know, it wasn't that I had this superiority complex I actually think it was my friends that brought it out of me because I'm not like that around other people. So yes, severing ties with them most definitely :D
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lol yeah, well fashion and stereotypes are tricky. People will think you're part of a fad if you dress a certain way when that style is a fad, but if you dress like that when it's not popular, obviously you aren't/weren't. It's always annoyed me when things I like have turned into fads and people think I'm part of them...like I'll admit, when I had to start wearing glasses 24/7 to see clearly, I went for black plastic frames because I thought they were cool because of friends I had (I was 12! So this was at the VERY beginning of the horrible emo trend...before it had a name.). I've stuck with them though because I honestly think I look better with plastic, dark framed, rectangle-ish glasses compared to wire frames. Nothing against people who wear wire frames, but I think they're kind of creepy and I don't like them. But I get annoyed when people wear glasses to be trendy but don't have any sight issues because I HATE having to wear glasses. I wish so badly I had the courage to get laser eye surgery or at least could get stupid contacts in and out of my eyes...but I tried that in October and failed miserably. *cough* but I've gotten off topic...

Oh god your friends have turned into the wannabe greasers? I hate them...I'm sorry, nothing against the people but seriously I hate wannabe greasers...especially this kid I went to school with...no joke one day he was a "metal head" always wearing band tees, relatively long hair, etc...next day he comes to school with a hair cut, his hair styled that greaser way, fitting white t-shirt and the blue jeans with the cuffs..like are you fucking kidding me? Wannabe fucking greaser. It's one thing to gradually slip into a new style of dress but to not really put that much thought into it (or maybe a lot of thought on the style alone) and just change over night like that...irritates me...It just doesn't seem genuine.

And I know what you mean...sometimes it's really hard to be fair to mainstream bullshit when you see how many sheeple it creates. Like Lady Gaga, I know she has talent, and I admit her songs are catchy and she might not be as horrible a person as I like to think she is, but I still don't like her. Katy Perry I begrudgingly like as much as I try to hate her...and it goes on...though I won't stoop to the filth that is Miley Cyrus or Justin Bieber or any other CHILD that is making music...okay Miley isn't that young anymore but I don't like her...Justin's not technically that young either but still not an adult...then we've got more horrible children groups that I find vile...there's one that is a black boy band, that is literally BOYS...like 12-13 tops these kids...and the one song I've heard they sing about their girlfriend texting him that she loves him and him replying -.- like, wtf? Then Will Smith's daughter with that horrid "I Whip My Hair Back and Forth"? -.- and internet sensation Rebecca Black...she's like 13 and while it's easy to mock her and her song...she's a kid. She was offered money to sing a song, what little girl wouldn't want to be a famous singer? Especially when they admire people like "Hannah Montana"? She was handed a shite song and not given proper vocal training before hand, and now she's a huge laughing stock. I'm not even going to pretend I haven't joined in on the mockery but it's really sad when you remember she's just a kid.

-.- Ke$ha spewed bullshit about wanting to live in a tree house in the Amazon? God she needs to be shot...seriously, her songs are annoyingly catchy, again I won't lie...but she's such a vile piece of filth..ew..
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